Book cover of 'Playing Well with Others' by Lee Harrington and Mollena Williams, featuring black and white illustrations of various legs clad in boots, heels, and stockings on a beige background.

Playing Well With Others: Your Field Guide to Discovering, Navigating and Exploring the Kink, Leather and BDSM Communities

$19.95
$19.95
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by Lee Harrington (Author), Mollena Williams (Author) 

Whether you're a trembling novice or a jaded expert, there's always something new to be discovered in the endlessly changing, complex and titillating world of kink.

While there are plenty of other books out there that explain how to give a spanking or tie a half-hitch, Playing Well With Others is the first book that explains kink *culture* -- the munches, parties, leather bars, conferences, workshops, fetish nights, exploratoriums and all the other gatherings of kinksters that turn BDSM and leather from a bedroom predilection to a lifestyle and a community.

You'll learn to:

  • Examine your own motivations, needs, wants and desires
  • Ease your way into established communities
  • Understand etiquette in different adventurous sex communities
  • Familiarize yourself with the many types of events available to you
  • Care for your relationships as you explore new territory
  • Negotiate for play and aftercare
  • Go back to the "world at large" without ruffling feathers
  • and, of course, answer the all-important question: What do you wear?!

The team of Harrington and Williams offers 30-plus years of experience in diverse kink communities: top, bottom and switch; gay, bi and straight; female, male and trans; white and POC. Both former titleholders and international educators, they are an unbeatable pair of "sexual sherpas" with an inimitable voice and a great deal of wisdom.

Playing Well With Others is an unprecedented and essential guidebook for anyone who wants to explore or understand the "community" aspect of the kink lifestyle.

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